You may have heard the same old trope of “when you meet The One, you just know”. For singletons, this is really unhelpful “advice” from your happily loved-up couple friends and family.
Yes, we all know this is true — but what exactly is it about our partners that we find so irresistible? It’s not just looks and intelligence, or at least if it is, you need to work on some other aspects of your life.
There is a myriad of things that make up who your date will be in the future. The same person may be attractive to one but not another because each person has different tastes, interests, and desires.
Qualities To Focus On
There are many qualities you could focus on when trying to attract the perfect partner for yourself, but at the end of the day, there’s really no point in starting your search until you figure out what kind of person you want to meet.
Often, we go out and try to meet somebody without really thinking about what kind of person we want to be with.
Is it someone who is similar to you or who you can complement? Someone who shares your interests and hobbies? Someone who is thoughtful and caring or someone more spontaneous and fun-loving? Are you looking for a confident, laid-back man or a powerful career woman?
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Be realistic about what qualities are important for you in the type of person you want to date.
Dating The Right Personality Type
If you’re a shy, bookish type then you might not be looking for a partner who loves nothing more than spending every night out in a bar, but if you’re outgoing and love meeting new people then maybe that’s what you want from your life partner.
If you want to attract the kind of person who complements you, take some time and really think about what qualities will make them perfect for your lifestyle.
After all, it’s highly unlikely that your dream person will be just like yourself.
Are You Judging Too Quickly?
There is an old saying, “never judge a book by its cover,” and it applies here too.
It’s time to consider if you yourself are being a little bit too judgy when looking for the love of your life. Ask yourself, have you got a tick list? Is it realistic?
You might not even realize that you are looking for specific hair color, height, or body type when it comes to your future partner.
You might even be placing them into a box in your head based on a stereotype. People are people, not clowns from the circus. They are not a checklist, and you shouldn’t judge them based on their appearance.
You will never find your perfect partner if you don’t give yourself the opportunity to meet all kinds of people.